Just for Dads

By Geoff Williams

Calling all new dads:  This is an exciting time—not a time to run out with the guys for a round of golf (at least, not until you’ve made sure your wife has everything she needs!).  But seriously, the keys to a happy parenting partnership are communication and support.

During Pregnancy:  You may not be pregnant, but you can participate by actively being there.  Let her know how much you’re enjoying seeing her belly grow.  Try to make it to at least a couple prenatal appointments.  And attend some childbirth classes so you can participate fully in the birth experience.  Your spouse may be intensely demanding.  Go with the flow.  Take over the grocery shopping and satisfy her midnight food cravings willingly.

During Labor:  Have her favorite music on hand.  Be ready to soothe and massage her and offer ice chips.  But if she doesn’t want any of it, don’t take it personally.

After Baby:  Probably the most important thing in the early weeks is patience, so cut her plenty of slack.  She’s been through the physical trauma of childbirth and her whole life has been turned upside down by the new arrival. 

Even if you’ve had a hard day at work, keep in mind that your day probably sounds like a vacation to her.  So do be supportive.  Call your spouse regularly, and let her know just how much you appreciate her.

Appreciation can be expressed in many ways, but a thoughtful gift wouldn’t go amiss!  A charm bracelet with baby theme charms, including one with baby’s birthstone, makes a wonderful surprise.

There are other ways to be thoughtful.  Perhaps offer to look after baby and pamper her with a relaxing spa package.  There are few women on the planet who wouldn’t jump at the chance of at least a pedicure, and a relaxing facial or massage will renew her spirit.

Being a parent is not easy.  There will be bumps along the way (not too many, we hope), but to survive the ups and downs, you need a strong partnership—start building it now!